Take Time to Gloat

Research says people who feel proud make great leaders.

When was the last time you were so happy with yourself or your work that you walked around with a smile all day?

 

I found in research for my latest book that high-achieving women tend to enjoy their victories, but only for a moment. They may dance a jig, call their friends or even fall to the ground full of gratitude and bliss. They celebrate well, but it doesn't last. All too soon, they are on to the next challenge. There is always more to do and more barriers to break down. They don't sport their smiling satisfaction for too long.

 

If you are a momentary celebrator, you are missing an opportunity to benefit from your pride. Researchers at Northeastern University found that people who feel proud make great team leaders. "The experience of pride can be very socially adaptive," says Laura Williams, the study's lead author. Their researchers found that when put in teams, the people who had just completed a task they excelled at were more dominant and likable than the other participants. People tended to follow their lead. The overall experience was positive.

 

It is good to feel good about yourself, which makes you smile a lot and carry yourself with confidence. Pride is a social lubricant. Therefore, the next time you complete a great accomplishment or you are rewarded for your ideas, take time to gloat. Carry your pride with you. Your joy will lighten up the spirit of those around you.

 

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TNM affiliate Marcia Reynolds' forthcoming book, Wander Woman, is based on her research into what makes high-achieving women tick. You can see this post and many more at her blog, Burden of Greatness.